OCTOBER 2010

 

 

Carla Balaita – Bacau / Romania

 

Is it possible to have a romantic relationship without egoism?

 

At the beginning of a romantic relationship, both partners seek connection, so they increase seductive behaviors to gain emotional sway over one another, simultaneously hoping to conquer their fears of rejection. Once this connection is established, another need arises; that of obtaining some personal liberty and autonomy. This is where egoism comes into play in a relationship.  At this point, couples need to find a healthy balance between their need for connection and their need for autonomy in order to avoid conflicts and negative emotions such as fear, jealousy and anger.  When the desire for balance is equally present in both partners, they can then focus on their intimacy and their personal contributions without the need to have the other conform to their expectations; they know that the relationship as a whole, and not the separate individuals in it, can meet their needs.



 

Yolande Hoelscher – Huntington Beach / California

 

I’m worried about the increasing level of violence amongst our youth. What is your opinion, and are there any solutions?

 

I’m not so sure violence is increasing amongst our youth. It takes new forms, certainly, but I think it has always existed.  Much of this violence stems from their frustration in planning for their future, since many of them believe they are powerless in positively changing it. To counteract this attitude, it’s imperative that we aid these young adults with planning effectively for their futures, and provide them with ways of creating new values that will help them adapt to the current socio-economic culture. Regardless of age, from the moment a person realizes that they have bounteous opportunities to ensure a better future, they get a sense of peace and serenity in their present.



 

Dora Evagelinaki – Volos / Greece

 

What advice would you give to those who seek to unite and reconcile people of different cultures?


In general, intercultural relations and especially the commitment to encourage intercultural communication, has always been of great interest to me.  My experience tells me that the best approach is through peaceful dialogue. By that I mean, communicating in a peaceable manner, while accepting each other’s differences, without the need for power or domination over one another. This is how we abolish rivalries. Peaceable communication encourages sharing experiences, thoughts and ideas in a healthy and clear way; a way not based on conflicts or the need to prove who is in the right. Peaceful dialogue is the only way for those who are concerned about how they come across in their interactions, to ensure sharing and exchanging ideas which bring about the best in one another.



 

Snežana Grujić – Belgrade / Serbia

 

Do you write for yourself or to share your messages with others?

 

I don’t think people write solely for themselves; sure, it’s partly for us but also for the audience we have in mind, and for anyone, in general, who is interested in reading our work.   Philofiction is a genre of literature that cannot be satisfactory without questioning the meaning of certain thoughts and ideas. In using philofiction as my style of writing, my aim is to engage readers in an exchange of thoughts over the ideas I’ve written about, thus forming a community between themselves and I, based on our mutual desire for wisdom and openness.



 

Gili Anna – Tel Aviv / Israel

 

What do you think of telepathy? Is it myth or reality?


We all possess natural capacities from the Universe’s energies, and from that of matter. Even if these capacities are still very underdeveloped in the vast majority of people, they are still there in a latent state. This is true in many areas, but especially when it pertains to the power of thought. The ability to communicate in an instantaneous manner is one example of a capacity we possess, but have as of yet to develop. It’s also something we share with the animal kingdom; animals also have this ability for telepathic conveyance, but more in an emotional and instinctive level.  Man, however, is in the position to evolve this capacity to that of the mental level, therefore enabling communication directly from mind to mind.



 

Antara Karvade – Madhya Pradesh / India

 

Do you see world poverty as a collective responsibility?


Whether we want it or not, we are all responsible for what’s occurring in the world. Regardless of our lifestyle, we are all aware of the vast number of people who live in a disproportionate manner, as if poverty and underdeveloped nations do not exist. The fact of ignoring that the majority of this planet’s inhabitants live in poverty and that millions die from hunger makes us all responsible to some degree. All it takes for change is for us to become aware and interested in the real causes of this disharmony, and the importance of establishing actions enabling better sharing, generosity and fairness amongst mankind. Every individual’s awareness and actions can serve as examples for others, therefore contributing to a collective understanding which can transform the world into a better one.



 

Nizar Al Merrouni – Tangier / Morocco

 

How can we recognize personal evolution, and how can we accelerate this evolution?


When referring to personal evolution, we really mean the evolution of an individual’s conscience, which is recognized by the individual becoming more altruistic. His actions are less driven by his egocentric desires, and through a profound sensibility, driven more by a deep need to improve human condition. An altruistic person regards the world and those around him as more important than himself. In regards to ways of accelerating this personal evolution, I would advise being attentive and generous to all around. Being attentive and providing selfless service for the well-being of others is part of the most important pillars of the evolutionary process.